Your hardest decisions, made easy.
Do you feel stuck or have any big decisions to make?
There are certain quandaries in life that friends can’t give you the answer to and analysis won’t give you that new perspective you’re searching for.
Here’s an example:
- The last few months I’ve been trying to figure out a way to reconfigure my monthly in-person program called: Tools of Gold for the Embodied Feminine. I want it to be more conducive to having a baby in November. Monthly meet ups is part of what participants love and is the part that will be hard on my very new family unit.
- I enlisted the help of a wise woman who’s brought a similar program into the world while also bringing a new baby into the world. I interviewed past participants about their experience and desires.
- I still couldn’t come up with a solid plan that truly honored the program and my life. So, I enlisted the help of my subconscious and sleep.
Being stuck simply means there’s an answer we’re not yet seeing.
Our brains tend to be limited in their perspectives because of their repetitive nature. Ninety-eight percent of our 60-80,000 thoughts each day are the same as the day before and about 80% are negative (95% unconscious)! Clearly this could make problem solving a challenging process!
Learning specialist Josh Waitzkin* suggest that there’s a lot of power in accessing your unconscious brain to come up with your best answers. I implemented his method and now feel excited and at ease with my upcoming plan.
Here’s Waitzkin’s method:
· At the end of the day, write down your Most Important Questions (MIQ).
· Let go of analysis after writing it down.
· Upon waking, and before being influenced by any outside sources (emails, news, social media), write down anything that comes up.
If you want to geek out on why I think this works, read the bullets, otherwise skip over!
- Asking Questions: suggest to our brain (reticular formation) to keep an eye open for new solutions.
- Letting go: allows the analytical brain to relax, our stress response to diminish, and gives us easier access to creative insights.
- Sleeping: helps the brain regenerate and process new information. It also gives us easier access to the unconscious as our brain waves slow down.
- Journaling upon Awakening: takes advantage of our heightened ability to pull from a place of inspiration that is less programmed and influenced societal thinking.
Waitzkin has used this method to help many high-level competitors, investors and business gurus to get potent answers to pressing questions at a more rapid pace. It seems the more one practices asking, letting go, and checking back in, the quicker the turnaround is between MIQ and inspired answer.
Now over to you:
What is your MIQ? Write something down or ask a question in your head NOW. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It will refine itself with time.
Let it go.
Check in tomorrow morning.
You’ll know your answer is right for you if it creates a sense of ease and expansion in your body. It may be scary as shit to implement, and your logical brain (ego) will tell you why it’s a bad idea, but again, if the first experience of the idea or vision feels exciting or expansive, then it’s for you.
I’d love to hear what you come up with!
PS- Currently, my MIQ is, “What does my most fulfilling life look like as I bring a new life (a baby) into this world?”
The answer I received is counterintuitive to progress and insanely rich in self-development. More in the next letter…
*This email was inspired by Tim Ferriss Episode #375 “How to Cram 2 Months of Learning Into 1 Day.”
The interview was with Josh Waitzkin the author of The Art of Learning and “an eight-time US National Chess Champion, a two-time World Champion in Tai Chi Chuan Push Hands, and the first Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt under World Champion Marcelo Garcia.” Tim Ferris